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Doing Marriage God’s Way, Part 8 — Ephesians 5:28-30 (Revive the Family, Revive the Church, Awaken the Nation, O Lord #32)


A series of homilies on Ephesians 5 & 6

A homily is “a short talk on a religious or moral topic; a usually short sermon; a lecture or discourse on or of a biblical theme.”

I am sharing a verse-by-verse series of short messages on Ephesians 5 & 6 (as well as other passages of Scripture) specifically targeted at reviving families and encouraging and exhorting husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, and children to do what God has commanded them to do, for if the church is to be revived and the country is to be awakened, the family must be revived first.

Ephesians 5:22-30:

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.


Mark Dunagan said, “‘To hate one’s wife is as irrational as it is to hate one’s own flesh.’ Just as a man instinctively does these things for his body, so must he be concerned for every aspect of his wife’s well-being: physical, mental, emotional, social, and spiritual.”

Leonard Ravenhill said, “Evangelists today are very often prepared to be anything to anybody as long as they can get somebody to the altar for something. They glibly call out: ‘Who wants help? Who wants more power? Who wants a closer walk with God?’ Such a sinning, repenting ‘easy believeism’ dishonors the blood and prostitutes the altar. The altar is a place to die on. Let those who will not pay this price leave it alone!”

Paul continues his argument on how a husband is to love his wife. He says, “No man ever yet hated his own flesh.” No normal man hates, or as the Greek word says, “detests,” his own body. He loves and cares for it. He tries to improve it and preserve it in any way that he can.

Furthermore, Paul says he “nourisheth and cherisheth it.” The Greek word Paul uses for “nourish” means to help bring up to maturity, to care for as it grows. The word he uses for “cherish” means “to keep warm; to cherish with tender love, to foster with tender care.”

A husband who nourishes and cherishes his wife (as he does himself) will provide for her, guard her, and protect her from exposure and want “even as the Lord does the church.” This means that a husband must communicate with his wife and the wife with her husband, just as Christians are commanded to communicate with God through prayer and God communicates with us through His Word and through the Holy Spirit. A husband must be attentive and attuned to the needs of his wife just as Christ is attentive to the needs of his church. The husband is most fulfilling in his role when he is most like Christ.