Jesus Christ said, “It is written, My house shall be called a house of prayer.”

Doing Marriage God’s Way, Part 7 — Ephesians 5:28-30 (Revive the Family, Revive the Church, Awaken the Nation, O Lord #31)


A series of homilies on Ephesians 5 & 6

A homily is “a short talk on a religious or moral topic; a usually short sermon; a lecture or discourse on or of a biblical theme.”

I am sharing a verse-by-verse series of short messages on Ephesians 5 & 6 (as well as other passages of Scripture) specifically targeted at reviving families and encouraging and exhorting husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, and children to do what God has commanded them to do, for if the church is to be revived and the country is to be awakened, the family must be revived first.

Ephesians 5:22-30:

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

If you hate your wife you hate yourself. If you hurt your wife you hurt yourself.

Martin Lloyd-Jones said, “The Apostle puts it in this form in order that a husband may see that he cannot detach himself from his wife. You cannot detach yourself from your body, so you cannot detach yourself from your wife. She is a part of you, says the Apostle, so remember that always.”

Leonard Ravenhill said, “To copy copies is not normally safe, but it is safe to copy Paul, for he was fully surrendered, wholly sanctified, completely satisfied.”

After explaining the husband’s responsibilities by using Jesus’ relationship with the church as an example, Paul returns to the theme of the husband’s responsibility to love his wife.

Paul adds another comparison this time: “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.” Paul is not just saying that a husband ought to love and care for his wife just as he loves and cares for himself. He is not trying to apply the Golden Rule to marriage. Rather, he is saying that the husband ought to love his wife because she is a part of him. In God’s eyes, the ideal of marriage is that the husband and wife “are no longer two but one flesh.”

This goes back to how Eve was created. She was fashioned out of one of Adam’s ribs. When God awakened Adam from his sleep and brought Eve to him, He was bringing Adam a missing piece of himself. That is how close a wife and husband ought to be, if they are in the will of God, even though they are not perfect.

The reality that they are one ought to be the driving factor in the relationship of the husband and wife. One will not act without thinking of how it would harm the other. When you are tempted to do or say something that is wrong, think of how you would be affected if someone did or said that same thing to you — and then realize that that is exactly what you are doing because you and your wife are one flesh.

This also works the same way for doing things that are good. Paul says, “He that loveth his wife loveth himself.” When you do something good for your wife, you are doing something good for yourself because both of you will benefit from that action. Your relationship (as “one flesh”) is improved when you love your wife and treat her as you would treat yourself.

Revive the Family Prayer List


— Dee
To restore her daughter, Jessica’s faith and reconciliation
For Satan to release his hold on her son-in-law, Justin
To protect her two grandsons against the enemy

— Anonymous
that their son would present his citizenship application early
to get money to pay an able lawyer who will be interested in their case and represent them efficiently
that their deportation would be cancelled

— Arpan
for his and Vandana’s family’s examinations to go well, for their church, for Henry Sunray

— Sherette
for Neichelle and Lanten’s chemotherapy to go well, that he would be healed

— Shanae
for her daughter to be healed



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