Jesus Christ said, “It is written, My house shall be called a house of prayer.”

Doing Marriage God’s Way, Part 2 — Ephesians 5:22-24 (Revive the Family, Revive the Church, Awaken the Nation, O Lord #26)


A series of homilies on Ephesians 5 & 6

A homily is “a short talk on a religious or moral topic; a usually short sermon; a lecture or discourse on or of a biblical theme.”

I am sharing a verse-by-verse series of short messages on Ephesians 5 & 6 (as well as other passages of Scripture) specifically targeted at reviving families and encouraging and exhorting husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, and children to do what God has commanded them to do, for if the church is to be revived and the country is to be awakened, the family must be revived first.

Ephesians 5:22-24:

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.


James Dobson said, “Each of us submits to a higher authority. Consider the boss at work or the IRS agent at tax time. They are our equals as people, yet we submit to them because they have authority over us when they assume certain roles. A wife submits to her husband in the same manner. You both are equally valued, equally important partners — yet your roles are different.”

Leonard Ravenhill said, “We have adopted the convenient theory that the Bible is a Book to be explained, whereas first and foremost it is a Book to be believed (and after that to be obeyed).”

After commanding Christian wives to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord, Paul gives the reason why they should do this. He says, “For the husband is the head of the wife…” You might say, ‘That’s not a good enough reason.’ It sounds so simple that many wives dismiss it and disobey it to their own detriment. They mistakenly think that being the husband does not necessarily make him the head or the leader in the relationship.

But, when you think about it, this is a very good reason. Why do you submit to a police officer? Because he is a police officer and he is in authority over you when it comes to the law. It does not mean he is better than you. It does not mean that you are inferior to him. He is simply filling a role of authority that has been ordained by the government.

It is the same way in the home. The husband is the head because that is the role God has ordained him to fill. God made Adam before he made Eve, and God put Adam in charge of the Garden. He gave the instructions to Adam and He expected Adam to lead Eve in carrying them out. You might say, ‘Well, that was Adam and Eve. Times are different now.’

In answer to that, right here in this same verse is another comparison that was relevant 2,000 years ago, and is relevant today: “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church…” Can you imagine Christ NOT being the head of the church? Can you imagine yourself telling Jesus what to do? Can you imagine Jesus not leading His people? Of course not. Paul uses this example to show the seriousness of the wife submitting to the husband. She should submit to her husband just as all Christians should submit to Christ.

As the head of the church, Christ is also “the saviour of the body.” Martin Lloyd-Jones said, “What, then, is the doctrine? It is clearly this. The wife is the one who is kept, preserved, guarded, shielded, provided for by the husband. That is the relationship — as Christ nourishes and cherishes the church, so the husband nourishes and cherishes the wife — and the wife should realize that that is her position in this relationship.” It is a position of submission

As the church submits to Christ, and as the human body must follow the commands of the head, the family body (the wife and children) should follow the commands of its head (the husband and father) The husband is looking out for the well-being of the entire family — the “body.”

When submission as originally instituted by God is practiced by the wife, there is more peace, order, harmony, and joy in the home. You say, “Well, what about the husband?” Don’t worry, I’ll be dealing with him soon.

Let’s pray.

Revive the Family Prayer List


— Linda in Fort Worth, TX
for her brother to be completely delivered from alcohol & grief over the murder of his only son
for her daughter to come back to You

— Teresa in Albany, GA
for her daughter and oldest son to recover from the death of their brother and to be healed
for Teresa to stay strong

— Linda in Ledyard, CT
for her prodigal husband to return to You and come home

— Virginia in Barbados
for her nephew, Fachad, to be released from prison; for her husband to stay employed; for her to become debt free

— Kenesha in Kenosha, WI
bless her as a single mother, provide for her and her children; give her the right kind of job that pays well; lead her to a good church home



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