Jesus Christ said, “It is written, My house shall be called a house of prayer.”

Doing Marriage God’s Way, Part 10 — Ephesians 5:28-33 (Revive the Family, Revive the Church, Awaken the Nation, O Lord #34)


A series of homilies on Ephesians 5 & 6

A homily is “a short talk on a religious or moral topic; a usually short sermon; a lecture or discourse on or of a biblical theme.”

I am sharing a verse-by-verse series of short messages on Ephesians 5 & 6 (as well as other passages of Scripture) specifically targeted at reviving families and encouraging and exhorting husbands, wives, fathers, mothers, and children to do what God has commanded them to do, for if the church is to be revived and the country is to be awakened, the family must be revived first.

Ephesians 5:28-33:

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.


Phillip J. Swihart and Wilford Wooten said, “Scripture directs us to honor parents. Obeying parents, however, is clearly time-limited. If we’re still trying to obey Mom and Dad, we’re not leaving them and cleaving to our spouse. While it may be difficult to defy their spoken or unspoken wishes, there may be times when it’s necessary.”

Leonard Ravenhill said, “At this grim hour, the world sleeps in the darkness, and the Church sleeps in the light.”

In order for a man to become one with his wife, there must be some semblance of leaving other familial ties behind. The Bible says, “For this cause [for the cause of being joined to one’s wife] shall a man leave his father and mother…”

One of the best things God led me to do for my family when my wife and I got married was to not stay closely tied to either of our families. There is some biblical precedent for a man and his immediate family leaving their extended family behind — moving away geographically — in order to pursue the specific purpose God has called that man and his family to accomplish. Abraham is one such example. God told him to move away from his extended family who were caught up in the worship of false gods, as God wanted to reveal Himself to Abraham and start a new race of people through him.

Now, husbands, you may not have to move away from your extended family in a geographical sense, but you must move away from them in a spiritual and relational sense. As the leader of your home, God is your head — not your mother or your father or your wife’s mother or father. Many marriages have been ruined by husbands and/or wives not cutting inappropriate ties with their respective mothers and fathers.

The Bible Knowledge Commentary states, “This verse is a free rendering of Genesis 2:24, indicating that the bond between husband and wife is greater than that between parent and child. The greatness of the mystery refers to the two becoming one flesh.”

‘Leave and cleave’ is a biblical command. Make sure you are obeying it in your marriage, and be blessed.